while i'm 'pasting' coping notes, here's a positive one: [we added the
   quotes around 'pasting'. karl is hand-retyping, not pasting. gives more
   options [for protecting him?],due to behavior exchange.]
   --
   an idea is that oppressed people, businesses, homeless, anarchists,
   militaries, governments, care workers
   are all trying to do the same human things, meeting the same human goal
   but have different experiences and ways to do this.
   a way to think of it is how when under great pressure, we change our
   approaches to handle the situation.
   we dissociate from our nature.