How women bond in sex - oxytocin - On the re-establishment of child marriage

Zenaan Harkness zen at
Mon Dec 10 13:34:16 PST 2018

So everybody's favourite Neon-Nazi Andrew Anglin, is calling for
"reinstating child marriage". Read it first before shouting an
ad-hom, as he's advocating a return (in this sense at least) to a
bygone era of the West which is not so long ago, where the social
mores, expectations and conversations created the possibility for
marriages where husband and wife can actually bond with one another -
in an emotional, bio/physiological way (notwithstanding "pick your

As most know, modern marriages (as well as "de facto" relationships)
are not working, in the sense that divorce and separation is the
dominant experience after (at best (for most)) a few short years.

This is consistently leaving children with broken families, torn
between one or another parent, usually left primarily with the mother
only and too often used as a bargaining chip between the "failed"

There's plenty of stats on all this, and "happiness" and "success" in
life for children from various families.

Puberty is the traditional "generally accepted" minimum age for
marriage in "Western Christian" history:

  Does the Bible say what is the proper age for marriage?

  Question: "Does the Bible say what is the proper age for marriage?"

  Answer: The Bible does not specify any particular age requirement
  for a person to be married; rather, it speaks in general terms of
  marriage being for those who are “grown up” (see Ruth 1:12–13).
  Both the language and culture of the Bible strongly support the
  idea that puberty, at bare minimum, is a condition that must be met
  before becoming someone’s spouse. This fits with the historical
  purpose of marriage, which has always been about conceiving and
  rearing children. Scriptural evidence indicates that those too
  young for childbearing are not candidates for marriage, though
  there is no explicit age given in the Bible.

  It is reasonable to look at the practices of ancient Judaism for
  cultural considerations on the proper age for marriage.  According
  to tradition, boys were not considered “men,” and therefore not
  marriageable, until the age of 13. Girls were not considered
  “women” until age 12. These ages more or less correspond to the
  onset of puberty. While those ages might seem too young to us, they
  are not unusual ages for getting married, historically. It has only
  been within the last century or so that the average age of getting
  married has drifted into the late twenties and early thirties.

The bottom line is that delaying adulthood, as we do today in the
west, does not delay puberty - and the sexual drives that accompany
puberty and which most all of us have experienced during our early
years ...

... and in today's "promiscuous" "Western" society with immediate
access to unlimited pornography and inexpensive and readily available
contraception, the natural desire of young humans to experience sex
is very easy to fulfil, and therefore ...

... therefore for women who "ride the cock carousel" for 12 or more
years before "settling down" and "thinking about a family", there is
no more real opportunity to bond (sexually) with a mate and therefore
no possibility for stable family (for say 16 years "for the kids"):

  Damaged Women

  I live in America and something is terribly wrong with most of the
  women living here. Something about Westernized culture is
  destroying the most wonderful attributes of women and turning them
  into pseudo-men with worst qualities of female gender. Many other
  threads have touched on many of the manifest problems- self
  centered, self entitled, gold-digging, sociopathic-

  Was it the media? Yes, to an extent- it introduced them to
  insidious, damaging behavior and poor role-models- but that was not
  the impetus that made good girls go bad.

  The real culprit is never talked about. Women become truly broken/
  damaged after they squander their VIRGINITY. It is apparently
  misogynistic to point out the difference between men and women, but
  here is a plain example of where men and women can never be equal.
  Women just are not equipped mentally or biologically to handle
  recreational sex in the same way that men do.

  The first time a women has sex, a chemical- oxytocin- is released
  in her brain that causes "pair bonding" to occur- its same chemical
  that is released when she is giving birth which causes mother to
  fall in love with baby. This is why first loves are always so
  intense. Women are admittedly- more emotional creatures, more
  sensitive to emotional pain- which is why when that first love
  ends, it is extremely devastating. After that first traumatic break
  up, a woman promises herself she will never allow herself to get
  that close to a man again, for fear that he may hurt her as badly
  as the first one did. Yet, every time she has sex with new men,
  that oxytocin will try to get her to bond with new man, but the
  women will now fight against that impulse- they don't want to bond,
  they want to f*ck. This causes a sort of sociopathic backlash to
  occur. After a series of men, it will become apparent that she can
  no longer bond significantly with ANYONE.

  The woman then becomes completely self serving- she doesn't trust
  that anyone will ever truly be there for her, so she has only
  herself to rely on, men are simply a resource to exploit, or a fun
  ride on cock carousel. Instead of finding meaning and pleasure in
  the joys of a close, intimate relationship, she seeks thrills of
  new sexual experiences...

  This only lasts so long. A woman's sexual capital is highest when
  she's young, and as she gets older, her options get less and less.
  She peaked early in life, and at the tender age of 30, she likely
  has another 50 years of it all being "downhill."

  In wiser societies, a huge amount of consideration was placed on a
  girl's virginity because they knew what would happen when a women's
  sexuality was left unleashed- it not only would cause ultimate ruin
  to the women, but the society at large, because a sexually deviant
  women is a social cancer, causing problems among both men and
  women. Women were placed in arranged marriages because- hell- let's
  face it, women are terrible at choosing their partners, as
  evidenced by 70% marriage failure rate of marriage. The traditional
  view of marriage held that a women would give her best years of her
  left to her husband, in return for him taking care of her when she
  got older. This is the original set up that held families together-
  a man was also invested not to leave the aging wife despite his
  steadily maturing sexual capital, as they had kids together and the
  kids would be very angry at that move.

  Women now want it that they get to slut it up first when they are
  young with all the the sexually exciting alpha bad boys, and then
  eventually settle down with a boring, economically viable beta.
  They refuse to see that at that point, there are broken beyond
  repair. Their sexual histories and memories do not go away after
  they are married, and those ghosts of the past will haunt her and
  ruin any stable relationship she could have had in the future.


  A Woman’s Body May Incorporate DNA From The Semen Of Casual Sex

  12 Years A Hottie
  … “Men do not have a sell-by date, but women do.”

  … “today, the price of pussy continues to be at all-time lows
     (if you avoid marriage)”

  … “In the foreseeable future we will continue to see economic
  decline, waning birth rates, rising divorce, men in poverty,
  increase in single moms, violent crime, married/single or
  middle-aged female teachers sleeping their students or teens,
  increase in suicides. This all will continue if our culture does
  not acknowledge human sexual dimorphism and the fact that men and
  women are different (not equal from a biological standpoint).”

SO! Listen up, women! :

 a) Recreational sex and resultant genetic deposit into your brain.

 b) Oxytocin release.

 c) “Can no longer bond significantly with ANYONE.”

That's the wrap!

Some men (probably many, perhaps most) also want the experience of a
woman who bonds to them, and that longer-term relationship which is
considered by many (and science) to be very functional for the first
14 years at least for our children.

So for females to marry young (say at or around puberty) is at least
one historically effective mechanism to handle the problem of those
who would "ride the cock carousel" and result in "broken" families.

Females preserving their virginity - or rather, not shoving ANYTHING
up there until you marry (to preserve that oxytocin bonding hit for
your husband/ long term father of your children) - is another
mechanism, although apparently almost impossible for young women to
do in THIS day and age...

  Average Age of Marriage Throughout History
  … The Medieval and Modern World
  One of the first times we see a major concern about the age
  difference between couples is in England in 1275 CE. In a law
  prohibiting rape, it was also declared illegal to 'ravish a maiden'
  within a certain age, with or without her permission. That age was
  determined by jurist Sir Edward Coke to mean the age of marriage,
  which at the time was 12. This still seems young, but it's one of
  the first times we see a strict age limit placed on marriage or
  sexual interaction. This was the beginning of our modern
  association between the age of marriage and age of consent.

Good luck and create your world folks, our society and the future for
our children depends on it.

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