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On Mon, Nov 20, 2017 at 4:55 PM, Cecilia Tanaka
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cecilia.tanaka@gmail.com> wrote:
Hi, my dearest <deleted the name of my friend, sorry>! Hope you are
feeling better today, more
hopeful and happy. It's a holiday in my city, is raining, and I love
you! <3
Some weeks ago, I had a very hard conversation with some friends and I
decided to avoid and/or boycott all the events with sexist or unfair
codes of conduct. Good sense and conversation should be enough among
rational people. We do not need hundreds of rules. It's ridiculous
to prejudge someone because of their gender, race, sexual choice,
whatever.
Well, I became a kind of "case" for being the first girl of the Human
Sciences Area to become a co-founder and a member of the PyLadies in
my country. After a lot of discussions, I left my own group,
considered actually the biggest Brazilian female coding group, because
of the prejudice of some members (cis women) against men and trans
women.
They seem to hate any human being with a penis and some of them say
that feel very "uncomfortable" with trans women "because they are not
like us". I did sincerely reject it with all my heart. They are
using their vaginas like weapons to justify making the same kind of
discrimination and violent attacks that we used to suffer in the past.
We have vaginas, but we are not victims and now it's time for talking
about technology and stop with all the drama.
Shit, I want more and more women talking about technology, not anymore
about how hard is to be a woman talking about tech, how hard is being
a woman, the eternal non-stop victimism. Yes, we still have victims,
but we also need to show some work instead of only drama. God, it is
not impossible or so hard! We just need a bit more of good-will and
patience.
I was and I am still the moderator of the PyLadies and Django Girls
Brazilian lists, but we had a horrible discussion about the fact I
always approve male confirmed collaborators, which I've known in
person. They are helping the groups, so they deserve the chance of
giving their opinions and feedbacks about important subjects, like our
meetings. I don't know if Freud can explain it, but some of these
women are mean, selfish, and just want fame, become known in the tech
area, and seem to see men like stronger candidates for the same jobs
and talks.
Last week, some evil women very, very limited and stupid wanted
to punish a girl who tweeted a post only because it was written by a
man. Can you believe it? It was so ridiculous, so surreal, that I
decided to become more present in the discussions and a little bit
more "savage". My English stinks, but my Portuguese is precise and
very good, so I can present several rational arguments and... well...
you can imagine the drama, uff...
I am very unhappy too, my dear. And I am a cute hetero cis woman, "a
poor victim". :((
Little kisses, hot chocolate and cozy snugglehugs! <3
Ceci
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On Wed, Nov 22, 2017 at 8:28 AM, Cecilia Tanaka
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cecilia.tanaka@gmail.com> wrote:
I read an old joke and I should not laugh, but I did it. ;P
"My friend said I make him feel uncomfortable because I violate his
personal space. I was hurt. He completely ruined our bath."
Oh, I forgot to say I don't tweet using the PyLadies account. Only
three girls do it and I personally appreciate a lot two of them, more
rational and mature than the others. The "fucking horrible tweet" was
a post about Turing written by a man. The retard who made a scandal
and sent us a message saying "we are sharing a post written by a man
about another man" was particularly aggressive.
God, I love Turing and my heart always breaks when I think about his
sad history... And the PyLadies account should be used to share
interesting news and posts about technology, not only Python news and
just women's posts. It's sexism, feminazism, and I reject this. Fuck
all the rules that they want to put in one more Conduct Code. I
respect human beings because of their knowledge, their character, not
because of their genitals.
I love you, dear. Take care and be happy, please.