canceled events, injured therapists, unanswered voicemails generally if i want to add a new formal event to my life, especially if it’s empowering or in-person, i have to jump through hoops and wait long delays. usually during the hoops and delays the people i’m trying to connect with can seem to get targeted as well. the delays can be attributed to missed messages, coincidental medical issues or other tragedies or sudden life changes, rescheduled venue constraints … and depending on the event they can also continue after the engagement, making continued connection hard. sometimes when i’m feeling extra limited regarding adding connections to my life or leaving the town or state or country i’m in, it can seem nice to find some way to establish a norm of something different. this is meaningful even just for my own psychology. what kind of things are reliable, and won’t get rescheduled — maybe big, popular events or gatherings? what kind of people can be easily reached without phone or email? what kind of events can be found without relying on digital and human updates …? what kind of places can i travel to, whether or not there’s an event there? …