it seems like ideally one would figure out in advance how integration would go and demonstrate this to the dissociated parts so they get on board. second to that, for addictions, invasive thoughts, gangstalking - we want to find ways to reduce the experiences without stimulating them. this is possible. - the goal is to have all nasty stuff be safe and conscious considering and communication, rather than extreme experienced - when we stimulate the extreme experiences more, we lose progress, so learning the things that make them tense, defensive, fearful, aggressive, or otherwise stimulate expression is helpful when safe to do. - hence, if there are multiple people involved, relating around and attending to when things seem more dangerous or not is incredibly helpful. - the work happens in steps. we look to find ways, even microscopic, that help, and build skill with them, try to establish them as normal. - every tool is helpful, although some are better than others. we want to use them in ways that are sustainable, which can mean just a little sometimes. distraction, reward, dialog, pausing, strategic memorization, pacts, anything. - if something turns into a trigger, it’s possibly better to find a way to increase its safety by e.g. occasionally pairing a microscopic form with a reward - temporary progress - things that will break - is helpful too because it builds experience and skill with all the associated helpful bits, but it’s important to have some other progress to shift to when it does to keep up a norm of improvement - finding plans that are safe to make very clear is very helpful, it provides to begin integration - see a dissociation specialist once you can.