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    When they message you, pause to reflect:
    - What are they feeling and needing in this moment?
    - How can I respond with empathy while still maintaining healthy boundaries?
    - What positive qualities can I acknowledge and appreciate in them?
    
    Then reply in a way that:
    1) Expresses empathy for their experience
    2) Gently reinforces your needs and limits
    3) Affirms their good qualities and intentions
    4) Offers support and encouragement
    5) Remains calm, kind and centered on solutions