So E. Jean "most people think of rape as being sexy" Carroll is back on the 16 minutes of fame trail after her "Trump raped me" book bombed: 'Rape Is Sexy' Trump Accuser Sues President For Defamation https://www.zerohedge.com/political/rape-sexy-trump-accuser-sues-president-d... ... is now suing Trump for defamation ... I guess since the book did not make any money ... But the deeper qwestion here is why women are overwhelmingly tittilated with the "soft rape" fantasy, and the tl;dr appears to be "narcissism": Don’t Call Them “Rape Fantasies” Women: Ever had exciting fantasies of being sexually “devoured” by a stranger? https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evolution-the-self/201411/don-t-call... Study after study has revealed that one of women’s most popular erotic fantasies is being raped. Yet the fundamental dynamics of such fantasies has almost nothing to do with such a heinous act—which isn’t simply aggressive, but coercive, violent, and at times even life-threatening. After all, a woman feeling scared out of her mind is hardly conducive to sexual arousal. Additionally, women are frequently embarrassed, or ashamed, about the fact that such lascivious imaginings can actually turn them on. So what exactly is going on here? Why is it so exciting for many women to fantasize themselves as the recipient of a male’s unbridled, out-of-control lust? This post will attempt to clarify a topic as intriguing as it’s controversial. (Not to mention, absolutely mortifying to feminists!) Many of my ideas here relate to the findings of two contemporary female sexologists, as interviewed in a recent New York Times article (09/24/14) called “What Do Women Want?—Discovering What Ignites Female Desire” by Daniel Bergner. http://www.nytimes.com/2009/01/25/magazine/25desire-t.html?pagewanted=all&_r=0 Not cited in this piece is a famous quote from the conversationally gifted Madame de Staël (1766-1817), whose prescient words on the subject I regard as seminal. “The desire of the man,” she opined, “is for the woman, but the desire of the woman is for the desire of the man.” Without being overly simplistic or reductive, I think this timeless reflection goes to the heart of why women’s imagining what’s best appreciated as a “safe rape” [talk about oxymorons!] is so common a theme in their fantasies. And it’s no less common in literally thousands of romance novels, composed especially to titillate an almost mind-bogglingly large female audience. Bergner, interviewing Marta Meana, a psychology professor at UNLV, quotes this researcher (who, by the way, explicitly deems herself a feminist) as regretfully being obliged to admit that for women “being desired is the orgasm.” Further—and in stark contrast to virtually everything that’s been written about the close tie between female sexual interest and emotional intimacy—Meana asserts that women’s desire “is not relational [but] narcissistic.” It’s mostly about externally validating, or strengthening, feelings of self-love through experiencing her physical being as the coveted object of both a man’s sexual needs and adulation. And here Meana cites the research showing that in comparison with men, women’s fantasies attend less to giving pleasure than getting it, concluding that when it comes to desire, “women may be far less relational than men.” ...