Faustine wrote:
Take an inventory of all the unusual things that push your buttons--the opinions that make you unique--and you'll be a step ahead.
But this is a well-established unsolvable problem in philosophy. It is impossible to examine your fundamental ideas for they are what you stand on to examine. What you think are basic are at least one step up from fundamental. Another person can see your fundamentals but not you, and vice versa. Faustine demonstrated this with her parable about locating a long-lost acquaintance, as did he her, uh, her he. He did not could not recognize what she saw in him, and she did not see how he identified her. What she saw was a secondary appearance he claims to have seen in her writings, not primary. There is no way out of the dilemma of not being able to see in yourself what others do, what they see in you is transparent to you. An unexamined life is the only possibility -- the joke of the opposite canard. Camouflage at will, but it will take another party to check how you blindly failed to protect yourself. That's why relying on your own secret remailer the first hop is futile.